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"Today's society is full of rich gender and sexual diversity, however relatively little is known about the dating experiences of LGBTQ people," says Match Scientific Advisor Dr.
The study surveys a representative sample of over 1,000 LGBTQ singles between the ages of 18 to 70+ across
Everyone has a personal story of realizing their sexual orientation and coming to terms with who they are
Age of Self-Described Realization:
Gay Men– 25% realized they were gay when they were less than 10 years old, 50% by 13 years old, and 75% by 18 years old.
- Lesbian women – 25% realized by 12 years old, 50% at 15 years old, and 75% by 20/21 years old.
- Transgender men (FtM) – 50% realized their gender didn't match their bodies before their 13th birthday and 75% by the age of 16.
- Transgender women (MtF) – 50% realized they were transgender before their 13th birthday and 75% of people realized before age 20.
Time in the closet: 25% of LGBTQ singles came out the same year they say they "realized" their sexual orientation or gender identity. Of those who realized before adulthood (defined as age 18), they went an average of 7 years before telling someone they identified as LGBTQ. Additionally, of those who realized during adulthood, it took an average of 2.9 years to come out.
Who is most comfortable coming out? Those assigned male at birth waited the longest before telling someone, with an average of 1.6 years longer compared to biologically born females. Transgender women took an extra 2.1 years before telling someone than a gay or bisexual man, and transgender men waited the shortest amount of time without telling someone.
Born this way: Gay, lesbian, and bisexual singles overwhelmingly believe that sexual orientation is biologically based, with two thirds (64%) believing it is completely determined by biology and 28% believing it is a combination of biology and experience. Only 7.5% of LGB singles believe sexual orientation is determined by experience alone.
MARRIAGE & THE BABY CARRIAGE
In a long-sought victory for the gay rights movement, the
Love & Marriage: 63% of gay and lesbian singles have always wanted to get married, while 25% say they never wanted to marry.
Family Support: 74% of LGBTQ singles say their family will support their marriage (26% will not).
Building a Family: Having children is important to 48% of younger LGBTQ singles, with lesbian women being the most likely to want kids (52%), and gay men being the least likely to want kids (36%).
DATING DO's AND DON'TS
The dating habits of America's LGBTQ communities
Dating Online: 56% of LGBTQ singles have dated someone they met online, with transgender singles dating the most online (65%). Additionally, 46% of singles met their date last year though a dating app.
Who pays? LGBTQ singles say whoever initiated the date should pay (62%) or they play it safe and always split the bill (44%).
Transgender Dating: 47% of LGBTQ singles are open to dating someone who is transgender, while 44% say they would not consider dating them.
- Additionally, 61% of transgender singles tell their prospect about their trans identity before the first date, 15% do so on the first date, and 12% by the third date.
Nice to meet you: When it comes to first date physical expectations, 57% of LGBTQ singles expect a kiss, while 25% expect a full make out. Only 9% expect sexual intercourse (16% gay men and 2% of lesbian women). However, 30% expect nothing physical at all.
Sexting: 50% of LGBTQ singles have sent a sexually explicit photo of themselves, with bisexual women and gay men sending the most (64% and 56%, respectively). Lesbian women have sent the least (22%).
What's Your Number? The typical gay man has had 30 lifetime sexual partners and lesbian women have had 12 sexual partners.
- Regionally, gay men in
Los Angeles, San Franciscoand Riversidehave the highest average number of sexual partners, while gay men in Bostonhave had the least.
PrEP: 4% of gay men report using PrEP (HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis), 8% are considering it, and 1% have used it in the past. Those gay men who identify as being "out" are more likely to use PrEP.
GROUPS & LABELS
While some avoid labels based on factors like body type and relative masculinity and femininity, LGBTQ communities have many sub-cultures with specific identity categories and social conventions
- Who goes on the most first dates? Jocks average: 5.13; Daddies average: 3.74; Bears average: 3.68.
- Daddies are 140% less likely to want children and much more likely to date someone younger and lower income. They are also 115% more likely to expect sex on a first date.
- Jocks have the most sex in a year with an average of 42 times, followed by Daddies at an average of 30 times.
- Jocks are much more likely (126%) to be OK with their partners having sex with other people as long as they are told about it, and they are 263% more likely to have had an open relationship than non-jocks.
Lesbian Women: 59% of lesbian women do not see themselves as belonging to a category or group.
- 11% of lesbian women identify as butch and 8% as lipstick.
- Lipstick lesbians are 222% more likely to have had a date in the year than non-lipstick lesbians.
For more detailed study findings on LGBTQ singles, visit www.SinglesinAmerica.com and follow the social conversation at #SinglesinAmerica.
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Match: Amy Canaday, Amy.Canaday@match.com; DKC: Eva Ross, Eva_Ross@dkcnews.com